And he's off!

Oh my has it been an exciting day! For the first time, Liam crawled OUT of the living room, explored the hallway, then entered the bedroom where Papa was.
Holy mother of god I need to start mopping more!
And, not only that, he has been lifting his belly off the floor a lot more in the past few days, and today he was on all fours, rocking!
So so proud!

Thursday

Thursday walk to the library to return a book series about fairies. Lupes's first chapter books. Then we saw a book on fairy houses. little creations made of twigs, leaves, stones. Made me think of being a little girl in Cambria. I spent a lot of time playing by myself creating little worlds at the base of trees or between rocks. So we came home and lupe put on her flower fairy costume from Halloween and we used her collection from last weeks trip to the beach and created our own fairy house in the back yard under the apricot tree. I still love to do that! I could spend a long time creating forts, making collages...

More photo faves

Pictures

Lupes graduation, cherries at the beach, sibling love, etc. can't get a photo yet, but Liam has his third tooth!

My "everything"

When I start to compare myself, my life to other moms who seem to do everything, I remember: I show Liam flash cards 12 times a day, tactile stimulation 6 times, books, name objects, directions with modeling, oral stimulation, assisted crawling and many more things, plus live a normal life, like Liam's first baseball game. And art projects with Lupe. And that is plenty.

Lupe's therapy with George

It finally happened. Lupe is doing Liam's therapy program with baby George. Doesn't call it therapy, but she is massaging his body and looking for her phone to show video clips.

Mama Lupe

The maternal instinct staying strong.

8!!!

No matter where he is on the mat, he finds the 8. He eats the eight, he ate the eight..... It's like a sesame street skit!

ER

We went to the ER this morning.  Liam's fever was 104.5 and he vmoited all the milk he nursed in the morning, I mean really vomited.  There's no doubt now I know the difference between spit up and vomit.  Poor little guy.  And my breasts hurt, he hasn't eaten much in the last 18 hours.  He was all jittery and jerky in his movements.  Something didn't feel right.  BUt he's ok.  He's on antibiotics for a sinus infection, and they took a chest xray just in case.  His lungs show a possible lung infection, but basically we're alright.
So I thought my mama instints would be more secure with the second child.  I thought I'd be more relaxed about everything.  But having Down Syndrome put a curveball in there.  I'm always wondering: This ___, is it a DS thing?  And so I'm always a little worried.
On another note, we went to a neurodevelopmental evaluation in the Bay Area with NACD and felt really positive about it.  We, Pedro, my mom and I, finally felt like: Ah, someone who really knows about DS and our little guy's challenges and potential. We have a plan to implement at home, a lot of sensory stimulation and receptive knowldge. Flashcards of familiar objects first, reading, eductaional TV (to develop macular vision), and more.  Things we would do anyway with any baby, but now we are more conscious of it. Sensory stimulation gloves, mouth stimulation several different ways, help crawling, 20 + times a day, deep pressure.
His constant congestion.  I was told to go off dairy- ARHHH!!! I had suspected this for a while but needed someone to tell me to do it in order for me to implment the change.  It's been almost 3 weeks.  Not sure if it's helping, cause now he's sick and of course congested.  But I am doing it, and Lupe too more or less.  There has been no cheddar in this house for a while, a first for us.  I actually bought some soy cheddar.  But soy cheese doesn't melt.  it's a bit strange.  Goat cheese is ok, raw is better- so chevre is my new best friend. Yeah! Goat cheese and figs on a bagel- yes please! (I won't start trying to cut out gluten yet, litttle by little!)

Today is Saturday and there is a fun sounding Strawberry Festival in AG.  There is always something going on.  I see my friends doing things with their kids on Facebook: the pool, farms, festivals,date nights, girls nights,  etc.  And I feel like there's always some reason I can't go. Someone is always sick or....sigh. 
I need to stop thinking of things I "should" be doing with my kids.  I am doing a lot.  Maybe it's time I reached out and met the other mamas in the North County who have special needs kids and do things together.  I've been hesitant.  I don't want to hear about all thte possible future issues my son might have.  Is that normal?  But on the other hand, those mamas understand the challenges. 
Lupe's birthday is next week, my amazing girl will be 4.  I wish I could have a big fiesta and invite the many many friends we have and kind people in our community. But we can't.  It's just too much to handle.  So it will be a very very small celebration. But special.  All pink. 
Maybe a bigger celebration for Liam's FIRST birthday coming up in just over a month (No way no way- how can that be??!).
Thanks for reading dear friends and family, this little peek into our lives.....

Berkeley

Lupe had a cookie stand at our garage sale last weekend. I was proud of her being able to go up and ask people if they wanted to buy a cookie. Most couldn't refuse.
And that smiley boy? Yes, our Liam has become quite a flirt.

Scooting

These first pictures were taken almost 2 weeks ago. It's not just a Richard Simmons fashion choice, the purple spandex are therapy pants.  Basically a tube with a seam between the legs, so that Liam doesn't spread his knees apart so much (like a frog). Been a couple weeks that he is starting to raise his belly off the floor. Usually when this happens, he scoots himself back

It is May 3.  About 5 days ago Liam achieved a MAJOR accomplishment.  I was in the kitchen when Pedro called me to the living room.  He was holding a toy in front of Liam and he was.... scooting towards it, using his arms, elbows, and propelling his own self!!  Unbelievable, we have been working towards this goal for about 6 weeks now.  We came back from Mexico in March and ordered books by Glen Doman, founder of the Institutes for the Achievement of Human Potential.   The idea we are working with is: rolling and sitting are not nearly as developmentally important as crawling. The cross patterning that happens with scooting and crawling helps create synapses in the brain that mean brain growth.  So we made a crawling ramp, the idea being that gravity would help any movement Liam makes, to move him forward and down.  He eventually used his arms with more purpose to move forward. After about 3 weeks, we lowered the level of the ramp.

I often wonder if we are doing enough. 

Just when I'm feeling overwhelmed:

In the shade of the laundry:

Lupe doing our day's art experiment.  Shredded construction paper, flour, water and glitter.  See that shirt she decorated? I think it's pretty darn stylish.

My superman is 10 months old today!! And that does NOT mean he is almost one. No! Can't be possible.  I still can't quite get my head around the fact that we will have a little boy running around this house in no time.

Next week we are heading to the East Bay for a neurodevlopmental evaluation with the National Association for Child Development.  They will help us create a plan to do at home (physical therapy, intelectual stimulation, nutrition, etc).  We're excited. 

So, more to come...

Goals: crawling and mucha estimulacion

Happy almost Easter!  This picture is beyond cute- I just love my kids so much!!!!!!
Well, all is well here.  I have overwhelmed days and good days. Liam is using his crawling ramp/track.  He inches down it but it is hard to motivate him sometimes- but I am confident it will help. http://downsyndromeupupupandaway.blogspot.com/search/label/crawling This talks about it a bit.
I also want to start a reading and flashcard program with Liam (and Lupe too)- I would have thought that was crazy a year ago but I have been reading about it and I am doing it.  Lots of prep work. How to Teach your Baby to Read by Glenn Doman descrbes it.
I'm not blogging much lately- too much else to do- researching, reading other blogs, and now I am part of a couple online DS forums.  Might make the leap into meeting other local moms with DS kids- their aren't too many and I feel excited but nervous.
I don't think we are going to Philadelphia- too complictaed to explain, but we found another organization called the National Association for Child Devlopment (www.nacd.org) with evaluations done in L.A.  More on that later.

My girl CAN DRAW!  Out of the blue she just started drawing people- it is so fun to watch!  Mostly they are pics of Ariel and Prince Eric.  Hopefully the Disney obsession will wane and the Frida interest will pick up again. Ok, more bragging: she can write her name and Liam's too!

overwhelmed ("Love what is ahead...")

I'm going to say it. I'm terrified.  I am so scared that I am not going to find the motivation a nd energy to do ALL the things I want to do with Liam.  Especially with Liam, but Lupe too.  I am reading reading. One awesome DS blog leads to another and I am getting overwhelmed with all the theories and ideas and therapies, etc.  I have the urge to sob and I haven't had that feeling in a while, since this was all still new. 
Can I share with you some of the important sites and blogs that I am tuning in to?  That way, if you're really interested in what is going through my head right now (and to a large extent Pedro's too, though he isn't doing the reading) you can get an idea.
First off, some great blogs by moms:
http://www.downsyndromeupupupandaway.blogspot.com/search/label/IAHP (This also talks about IAHP, a program we will be going to in June).
In fact, here is there site: http://www.iahp.org/Who.34.0.html
http://dsdaytoday.blogspot.com/ (OMG- vitamn therapy! ideas about food! so much to read here)

As I sat down to write this, I used my will power to make myself a cup of ginger tea instead of hot chocolate (trying to be healthier!) and this is what the teabag said (I needed this):

We are going to Philadelphia in June to a course for parents called What to do for your Brain Injured Child.  (http://www.iahp.org/Pro.72.0.html) It is 5 days. We will probably take my mom to care for liam, and Lupe may stay home with family and friends. We still have to apply, finish writing my whole history (1 yr prior to pregnancy, delivery, all devlopment till now), save/raise money for the program, tickets, etc.   I am reading the books by Glenn Doman.  My dad is going to help build a crawling track.  I need new sensory stilumation every day for Liam.  All issues he has or will have start in the brain, so we need to STIMULATE that brain as much as possible- tactile, visual, auditory.  It is pliable and cn grow and expand. And Liam WILL have a full life. He has the POTENTIAL to do anything.  He needs our support.

Bananas

2/2/12  Without too much forthought, we gave Liam food today.  Funny how different it feels with the second kid.  When I went to write the date in his baby book, I realized I hadn't written down first smile, laugh, and rolling over!
I have let him lick a few things, pear, carrot, but he wasn't interested. Today Pedro scraped a banana and gave him some in a spoon and he seemd to be into it!  Then he just grabbed the spoon and seemed to feed himself! Clever boy.  Perhaps he just wanted to gnaw on the spoon. Either way, it was exciting.
This seemed natural.  I didn't want to watch the calendar and give solids at a predetermined time, and have it be rice cereal from a box. That just didn't feel right. 
And Liam will be 7 months tomorrow.  This is going by way too fast.

Teeth. Therapy. Compliments.

January 19.
What Liam's been up to: Sucking on his own lip and tongue. In fact sucking and chewing on EVERYTHING! I was reading on a forum, www.downsyn.com, that many t21 babies get teeth late- sometimes first teeth at a year or more.
He's doing "rasberries" too- when he blows out through his lips making a farty sound.
These are both new developments this week. Going to start receiving occupatinal and physical therapy each month.
Wondering if Lupe's going to ask if all babies get home visits from therapists.

After I took this picture a woman stopped at the stop light rolled down her window to tell us we were a beautiful family.  That was nice. Gotta pay forward that random act of kindness.  Do you realize how a compliment can make someone's day?  ICAN mtg topic was letter writing this week (i.e. letters written to hospitals thanking them for supporting vbacs, etc etc). I'm going to write my OB and thank her for supporting my vbac. When I see someone with a great hair cut, or doing something nice, I am going to say something nice to them outloud instead of just thinking it.

excitement

...and sometimes I feel a little sliver of excitement for what's to come.

kids in bed, and stuff on my mind

I remember when we first took Liam in to his pediatrician.  He picked him up and looked at him from several angles, then back at us and said something to the affect of, "Have you received confirmation on his diagnosis?"  And for a moment I knew we both thought, "Maybe it's not true!  Maybe he doesn't have Downs after all".  But he does.
Our pediatrician is always so impressed with his progress.  His hospital evaluation at 5 and a half onths was awesome-he was showing off and got rave reviews, pretty muc on target with other babies except a little behind in gross motor.  So we think he will probably be "high functioning". 
Today we had our first evaluation from a physical therapist.  He already sees the occupational therapist once a month (Without going overboard I want to make sure we are getting as much early intervention as possible). Her evaluative scores were a lot lower than our previous evaluation.  And I wonder, what does it matter, since all babies/kids have such a range anyway of development?
I keep thinking, Will he be in a regular classroom? Will he have a girlfriend? Will he live on his own? We don't know any of this yet.  We have to find the balance between being very present with him (his big lesson for me) and thinking of the future.
This is what I know so far about his diagnosis.
He will achieve many things, but at a slower rate.
He may have early alzheimers.
He will not have children.
He may not be able to drive a car.
He will probably be in regular classrooms, but with extra help.

Down syndrome is the most common genetic condition. One in every 691 babies is born with Down syndrome. The most common form of Down syndrome is called Trisomy 21, because it involves an extra copy of the 21st chromosome.  http://www.ndss.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=55&Itemid=75

It was a while before I realized with a shock that the term "mentally retarded" would refer to my son.  I don't know how much he'll get intellectually and socially.  He may not be an academic intellectual but will he understand social cues?  And sometimes I can't help but think, why me? Why us?  All these babies being born, why did ours have to have Downs Syndrome? That's hard to admit, but it's true.  I'm not quite sure in this moment, after a long day and finally getting th ekids in bed, how to say what I know to be true without sounding cliche.  But there's a reason Liam chose us as his family. There's a reason why special eductaion will be one of the areas of life we will have first hand experience with, just like miscarriage, breastfeeding issues, being a bicultural family and all the other things that makes our family experience unique, and ours.
And then I came across this article: http://www.childrenshospital.org/dream/winter10/childrens_new_star_player_winter10.html
I teared up. And felt hopeful.